“My child, listen when your father corrects you. Don’t neglect your mother’s instruction. What you learn from them will crown you with grace and be a chain of honor around your neck.”
Proverbs 1:8-9 NLT
While studying the roles of men and women in a marriage I became interested as to what role the children have in a family. We place a lot of emphasis on youth and childhood these days. More and more children are being put in front of the camera to preach at adults over the errors of our ways.
The thing is, leading adults isn’t a role designed for children.
““Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land the Lord your God is giving you.”
Exodus 20:12 NLT
“Children, always obey your parents, for this pleases the Lord.”
Colossians 3:20 NLT
Children are told to read the scriptures, accept instruction, and honor their parents. That’s about it.
Parents have a LOT more instruction when it comes to children.
““So commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these words of mine. Tie them to your hands and wear them on your forehead as reminders. Teach them to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up.”
Deuteronomy 11:18-19 NLT
“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.”
Ephesians 6:4 NLT
“To discipline a child produces wisdom, but a mother is disgraced by an undisciplined child.”
Proverbs 29:15 NLT
“Those who spare the rod of discipline hate their children. Those who love their children care enough to discipline them.”
Proverbs 13:24 NLT
“Don’t fail to discipline your children. The rod of punishment won’t kill them. Physical discipline may well save them from death.”
Proverbs 23:13-14 NLT
It’s interesting that discipline seems to be a bone of contention in modern parenting. The Bible makes it clear that if you love your children, you discipline them.
We are also called to be good examples. Not just for our children but for everyone:
“Care for the flock that God has entrusted to you. Watch over it willingly, not grudgingly—not for what you will get out of it, but because you are eager to serve God. Don’t lord it over the people assigned to your care, but lead them by your own good example.”
1 Peter 5:2-3 NLT
“In the same way, encourage the young men to live wisely. And you yourself must be an example to them by doing good works of every kind. Let everything you do reflect the integrity and seriousness of your teaching. Teach the truth so that your teaching can’t be criticized. Then those who oppose us will be ashamed and have nothing bad to say about us.”
Titus 2:6-8 NLT
As adults we have the responsibility to set a good example for our children, and to lead them in the right path.
“Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.”
Proverbs 22:6 NLT
This is because children are not wise. Children do not know everything. Children cannot lead.
“Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; The rod of discipline will remove it far from him.”
Proverbs 22:15 NASB
Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child. How much more foolish is the adult who follows a child’s instruction?